#48 – Letting Go

Of expectations Of how it’s “supposed to be” Of old hurts Of waiting for other people to “get” you Of old patterns Of smallness Of hoarding Of dualism Of negativity Of waiting to be “picked” Of isolation Of separation Of the facade Of control Of fear Of silence Of what no longer serves you, yourContinue reading “#48 – Letting Go”

#41 – Change Ready

I believe that both leadership failures and leadership successes can be traced to a common question: has the leader done his or her internal work? That work – the decision to diminish the influence of one’s past experience on one’s present behaviors – always precedes external awareness. It always precedes one’s ability to remain rootedContinue reading “#41 – Change Ready”

#33 – Originality

Doing a bad imitation of yourself is always better than doing a great imitation of someone else. A “bad” imitation? Yes, as in you are still coming into your own. You are still discovering your point of view, clarifying your values, finding confidence in your strengths, getting comfortable with feedback, learning how to stand byContinue reading “#33 – Originality”

#30 – You Can Adjust Your Default Setting

Two beliefs are highly problematic for the modern human being. The first is the belief that we are supposed to be rational actors and the second is the belief that we are. Just two minutes of silence reveals that in each of our heads exists a chorus of competing, irrational voices that makes our decision-making,Continue reading “#30 – You Can Adjust Your Default Setting”

#25 – Take Responsibility for Your Learning

This is #25 in the series, “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” Here’s another good one. Jia Jang is inspiring. He feared rejection so much that he decided to pursue it directly with the hope that he would learn to respond to it more positively and more productively. He recounts his “100 Day Rejection Challenge” in aContinue reading “#25 – Take Responsibility for Your Learning”

#20 – It’s ok to be “Good Enough”

This is #20 in the series, “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” Here’s another one I keep going back to. The following passage is from an article by Jennifer Kunst in which she provides a compelling interpretation of Donald Winnicott’s theory of the “good enough mother.” As you read it I invite you to do so in a wayContinue reading “#20 – It’s ok to be “Good Enough””

#18 – Build Capability Before You Need It

This is #18 in the series, “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” Here’s another one that I like a lot. Since we know that nothing lasts forever, a healthy, necessary and realistic point of view for leaders to take is that whatever is working right now will not necessarily work next year. Rationally, we understand that.Continue reading “#18 – Build Capability Before You Need It”

#14 – Tell the truth as fast as you can

This is #14 in the series, “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” Sounds good, right? It’s almost obvious, a little bit patronizing even. And, yet. It can be very hard to do. How long do you sit on your feelings, questioning them, rationalizing them, negating them? How often do you rehearse difficult conversations in your mind,Continue reading “#14 – Tell the truth as fast as you can”

#10 – “Development” is a Verb

This is #10 in the series, “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” Development is an action. Like any effective action it requires insight and planning (reflection) to precede it but, at its core, development is about forward movement and progress. This is not to convey an image of “leaps and bounds” but of an active progressionContinue reading “#10 – “Development” is a Verb”

#4 – Know Your Strengths

Between now and March 22, I am happy to share “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” What are you doing when you are at your best? What are you doing when you feel the most accomplished, competent and confident? What are you doing when you feel energized, when time flies by, when your work is notContinue reading “#4 – Know Your Strengths”