#39 – The Real Conversation

Open. Authentic. Honest. Vulnerable. Expressive. Sometimes painful, always a catalyst for new learning. The real conversation is the one below the surface of the one that is familiar and comfortable. It is the one hinted at but only entered into when two people agree to ask the un-askable questions give the un-giveable answers. I amContinue reading “#39 – The Real Conversation”

#23 – Get Closer

This is #23 in the series, “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” This is another one I think is worth your time. As valuable – as essential – as the big picture is, it is meaningless if it does not include an intimate awareness of what is happening at ground level. A coastal hillside, monochromatic againstContinue reading “#23 – Get Closer”

#2 – Change Starts Within

Between now and March 22, I am happy to share “50 Ideas Worth Fighting For.” If I could only write about one thing it would be this: all meaningful, sustainable change starts from within. For so many years I blamed my parents, my bosses, my siblings, my friends, my children, and even perfect strangers forContinue reading “#2 – Change Starts Within”

Becoming a Person

I don’t want to start a philosophical or theological debate about this so let me offer a caveat at the outset: when I distinguish between a human being and a person I am distinguishing between the common accident of birth all Homo sapiens share and how some turn that accident into an intentional, conscious life. In my experience thereContinue reading “Becoming a Person”

Leading From the True Self

The purpose of the true self is to keep us honest about playing as big as we can, fully living into our particular gifts. It knows that when we do so we are healthier, happier, and more energetically and generously connected to both self and others. That’s why the true self scares us so much.Continue reading “Leading From the True Self”

A tug at the sleeve

It’s an idea, maybe just an impulse. It’s many strands or pieces, disparate at first, less so as they converge. It’s the maturation of a point of view, the solidification of a belief system, the coming into one’s own perspective. It’s a persistent knocking, invitational in tone. It’s the other side of the door, theContinue reading “A tug at the sleeve”

As of today…

This transitional, uncertain, ill-defined space, this space in which you find yourself as a result of a recent change, this space which has you feeling anxious, uncomfortable, longing for “normal,” this is your space, but only as of today. There are two things to remember about this space: It is not a permanent condition. ItContinue reading “As of today…”

A Different Kind of Darkness

These early days of December are beautifully dark and brief. I am up before dawn most mornings and enjoy the privilege of watching the sunrise from the warm comfort of the living room. It is in this quiet place, as a witness to the new day, that I find myself most at ease with theContinue reading “A Different Kind of Darkness”

The Delight of Solitude

“Solitude is painful when one is young but delightful when one is more mature” — Albert Einstein For years now I’ve been contemplating why it is that I am increasingly comfortable with and even possessive of my time alone. It’s unknown territory for me, a long way from where I started. Between the ages ofContinue reading “The Delight of Solitude”

Looking Back to Look Ahead

My writing this past week began with a reflection on my path – my long and uncertain path – to vocation. With that groundwork laid on Labor Day, I moved into a variety of explorations of the inner life: the leader’s commitment to continuous learning; the freedom that that kind of deep personal awareness createsContinue reading “Looking Back to Look Ahead”