The Emotionally Intelligent Person

Today I add another entry to the long list of “things I wish I had written” with this excerpt on emotional intelligence by author and philosopher, Alain de Botton. I have not read the book from which this passage comes but I have read most of his other works and I will be adding thisContinue reading “The Emotionally Intelligent Person”

Keep it Simple

The older I get the more I discover that my earliest educational milestones are more beneficial than my professional training. I think it has something to do with the fact that in college, and certainly in graduate school and other certification coursework, the focus gets both narrow and esoteric. It leaves behind the pedestrian qualitiesContinue reading “Keep it Simple”

Ask for Help

When my daughter was in grade school, she had a tough time raising her hand in class to ask for help. She felt insecure about being exposed as “not knowing” and as a result didn’t get the support she needed when she needed it. Once her teacher picked up on this pattern she suggested aContinue reading “Ask for Help”

A Drop in the Ocean

“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.” – Mother Teresa Our workplaces are communities. Each day people come to them, bringing all of their experiences, feelings, joys and losses. They come to them because they must, of course.Continue reading “A Drop in the Ocean”

Simultaneously Whole

“Nothing in the cosmos operates independently. We are all holons, which are simultaneously whole in themselves, and at the same time part of a larger whole.” – Ilia Delio, Center for Action and Contemplation, 2014 I was just wondering how it might shift someone’s perspective about another person if his or her starting assumption isContinue reading “Simultaneously Whole”

Unique Human Needs: Connection & Love

I am energized to spend this week reflecting on Tony Robbins’ list of unique human needs. Here’s the list in its entirety followed by a brief reflection on “Connection and Love.” Unique Human Needs 1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure 2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli 3.Continue reading “Unique Human Needs: Connection & Love”

Fill in the Blanks

I am reminded again and again that the people who turn change into opportunity demonstrate three specific qualities: 1. They have a strong and positive self-concept. “I feel best about myself when I                                .” 2. They have deep humility and regardContinue reading “Fill in the Blanks”

On the Frontier

American mythology has long included the archetype of the “self-made man.” And no place is associated with that archetype quite like the American west. Think of covered wagons and remote outposts, think of cowboys and ranchers, think of miners and the Gold Rush. Think of the John Wayne/Clint Eastwood ethos. Think of Henry Ford, RayContinue reading “On the Frontier”