The Language of the Self

I suspect I could start a pretty lively debate by asking this question: of all of the limiting characteristics of leaders you know, which one is the most fatal? Some would argue the question itself, frustrated by it’s cynical assumption of leadership failings. As much as I favor and advocate for a “strengths” and “possibilities”Continue reading “The Language of the Self”

Present Creation, Future Creativity

This is “Heartlake High School,” the new Lego set my daughter earned by giving up thumb-sucking. Her future orthodontist encouraged us to reward her if she could go an entire month without sucking her thumb and she did! And so we did. She spent nearly an entire day building it, playing with it, deconstructing itContinue reading “Present Creation, Future Creativity”

Your Attention

“All that we are concerned with is turning your attention to the real things outside.” John C. Merriam, 1925 The Yavapai Point Geology Museum is located along the south rim of the Grand Canyon at a point selected to give the visitor the most comprehensive visual understanding of the canyon’s ancient geological lineage. It isContinue reading “Your Attention”


Take a deep breath. Wherever you are right now, just pause for a moment and take a deep, expansive breath. Breathe in through your nose, expanding your lungs and pushing the air all the way down to your diaphragm. Exhale through your mouth letting all of the air escape. And, now that you’ve done itContinue reading “Stop.”

Dig Until You Find It

“Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change.” Milton Erickson When we discovered late Sunday afternoon that there was a water leak in our front yard I started digging a hole to find out where it was. I started digging and I kept digging. Past the sprinkler line whichContinue reading “Dig Until You Find It”


In the Victoria and Albert Museum in London there are two large halls called the Cast Courts. These galleries house plaster reproductions of some of the most famous sculptures in the world, many of them wearing better than the originals, given their protection from the elements. (I haven’t been to Florence but I have seenContinue reading “Original”

Change or Progress?

What’s the difference? When we change something we make it different than it was. That difference may also be seen and felt as positive, depending on our point of view, but there is no certainty of an association between the two. Change is different but change is not necessarily better. If we make progress on somethingContinue reading “Change or Progress?”

Beware the Junkie People

“Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.” David Whyte The time suckers, the energy sappers, the naysayers, the critics, the negative Nellies, the meanies, the passive aggressive, the outright aggressive, the laugh-less, the loveless, the bullies, the glass half empty, the boundaryless, the false, the fake, the two-faced, the promiseContinue reading “Beware the Junkie People”

I am the kind of person who…

The Johari Window is a simple and clear model that reminds us that the best way to build trust and meaningful relationships is to share more of ourselves with those we wish to know. Because sharing more of ourselves typically works as a catalyst to others sharing more with us, pretty soon we build up a virtuousContinue reading “I am the kind of person who…”