Who Am I Being?

“I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi Ben Zander, orchestra conductor and co-author of “The Art of Possibility,” had an epiphany about why his players weren’t producing the sound he wanted. Instead of berating them for a lack of preparation, professionalismContinue reading “Who Am I Being?”

How fascinating!

A fun and challenging test for you: For the next week, each and every time you screw something up – shatter a glass, miss a deadline, say a dumb thing, send the wrong information, miss your turnoff – shut down your regular critical voice of reaction and replace it with “How fascinating!” So, “Oh myContinue reading “How fascinating!”

The Best Advice

The best advice I ever received came from the book, “The Art of Possibility” by Ben and Rosamund Zander. It goes like this: “Don’t take yourself so damn seriously!” (aka, ‘Rule #6′) I remember thinking, “How did they know!!!” (Yes, three exclamation points.) The second best piece of advice I ever received was to see aContinue reading “The Best Advice”

Before Asking Others to Change

How will you change first? How must you change first? It’s a radical question because it puts the responsibility back on you. And few people, few leaders are willing to take that kind of responsibility. Or ask it this way, from The Art of Possibility , “Who am I being that my player’s (my colleague’s,Continue reading “Before Asking Others to Change”


  To honor the accomplishment of my son’s high school commencement today here’s a piece I wrote a few years back. Congratulations, Duncan! Here at the end of the school year I’ve been thinking about what I would say to a class of graduating seniors to mark their commencement. There’s nothing here you don’t alreadyContinue reading “Commencement”

The Bigger Self

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” – William Shakespeare, Hamlet  “It’s all invented anyway, so we might as well invent a story or a framework of meaning that enhances our quality of life and the life of those around us.” – Rosamund Stone Zander & Benjamin Zander from The Art of PossibilityContinue reading “The Bigger Self”


Do not ask someone to be something you are unwilling to be yourself. Leadership is living your vision so completely that others cannot help but do the same. There are easily hundreds of things I could say about the experience my family had last night. I am only going to focus on one. Consistently inContinue reading “Energy”